Divorce Mediation: Learn from the Boy Scouts

To increase your odds of getting what you want in mediation, take a tip from the Boys Scouts: Be Prepared. Most of my Brazos County divorces include mediation. When you are prepared, you have a better chance of a successful outcome.

Develop a realistic settlement range. At the low end, know what your worst-case settlement looks like. At the high end, what is your dream settlement? Calculate your break-even point. These steps will prepare you to respond to various proposals that will come from your spouse during the mediation.

Identify what is essential to discuss at mediation. Make a list. Review it with your lawyer a few weeks before the mediation. The issues don’t have to be financial. One of my clients had a strong emotional issue regarding the old videotapes of her daughter’s early childhood. The mediation did not end until she and her husband resolved the issues surrounding those tapes.

Bring your starting offer. If you initiated the divorce, come to mediation with a written offer. Get the settlement discussions started right away. Your starting offer should not be your bottom line settlement scenario. Consult with your lawyer to pull this initial offer from somewhere within your realistic settlement range.

If you are getting a divorce in Brazos County or nearby counties, I can refer you to excellent divorce lawyers and mediators.